36. PENIS PERFORMANCE POINTERS - LASTING LONGER
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CALLING ALL PENIS OWNERS AND PENIS LOVERS! WANT TO KNOW HOW TO MAKE SEX LAST LONGER, AND AVOID FINISHING TOO SOON?
On this episode, Sara chats with Jeff Abraham, CEO of Promescent, who shares some great pointers on one of the most common penis challenges - early or premature ejaculation (PE).
We start off by discussing the various ways to manage the anxiety, shame and fear around PE and its impact on penis performance.
Some of the strategies include talking openly with our partners, and focusing in on their pleasure instead of just being fixated on the duration of sex as a metric of performance.
After all, longer sex doesn’t always equate to better sex!
Jeff also offers some practical tips on how to introduce toys and other sex-enhancing products in a confident, constructive manner.
Particularly, Promescent’s trademark delay spray for penis owners and arousal gel for vulva owners can be used together can help to close the heterosexual orgasm gap.
This episode will help all penis owners (and their partners) increase intimacy, stay present in the moment and connect on a deeper level.
More Juicy Bits on the Show
17:10 – 18:50 - Statistics on the heterosexual arousal / orgasm gap
27:19 – 27:40 - Managing expectations around desired duration of sex
30:28 – 33:00 - The importance of staying present in the moment
35:03 – 39:25 - Overcoming the challenges of talking about performance issues
44:56 – 45:22 - Unique characteristics of Promescent’s delay spray
53:44 – 55:22 - A technique that helps you “un-train” premature ejaculation
55:45 – 57:55 – Reframing sexual performance for penis owners
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Words of Wisdom
“And you know, the longer you go without sex, the quicker you’re going to ejaculate when you have sex again. When a man is having sex on a regular basis he gets more control of the ejaculation, the feeling of inevitability and your IELT (inner ejaculatory latency time) will actually increase.”
“If you do your job correctly and you understand your woman, especially if she is properly excited through foreplay and beforehand, 15-20 minutes is really long enough to have both of you guys receive an orgasm and hopefully a very pleasurable one.”
“That unbridled desire will transfer and have her feel more desired. As opposed to if you’re robotic and she looks at you and sees you glassy eyed, staring off into never-never land because you’re afraid and you don’t want to admit to her that you have this problem with rapid ejaculation so I’m kind of zoning out so what is she going to think other than, you’re not really into her.”
“I tell someone new, very early on, ‘I want you to masturbate for me’ because the best way for me to please you is to watch you please you. Close your eyes, here, have a glass of wine, let me light these candles and give you a little massage, show me how you want to be pleased. It’s the quickest way to find out, is to watch someone do it”
Other Great References You’ll Love
Promescent – A sexual wellness company with products that help people get better in bed. They are most known for their trademark lidocaine-based ejaculation delay spray.
Tips for Lasting Longer in Bed – 21 Tips for lasting longer in bed, naturally or with some added help.
Premature ejaculation Diagnosis & Treatment - The Mayo Clinic discusses treatment options for premature ejaculation, including behavioural techniques, topical anesthetics, medications and counseling
The average duration of sex – An informative article discussing the average length of time most couples are having sex for, and how long it takes them to orgasm.
TELL US WHAT YOU THINK!
What is your strategy for making sex last longer?