45. SEX FAQS – PERFORMANCE ANXIETY & PENIS S.O.S.
HOW’S YOUR PENIS DOING TODAY? PENISES COME IN ALL SHAPES AND SIZES, AND IT CAN BE TOUGH TO TALK ABOUT THEM OPENLY – ESPECIALLY IF YOU’RE ANXIOUS ABOUT IT’S HEALTH OR HOW IT’S PERFORMING.
That’s why Sara and Jeff Abraham, CEO of sexual health company Promescent (www.promescent.com) sit down and answer your most pressing penis questions on this Sex FAQs episode. Topics include:
1. How do I overcome performance anxiety?
2. What can I do to keep my erections strong with age?
3. How can I last longer during sex?
4. How can I improve my male masturbation sessions?
5. How do I maintain an erection with condoms?
6. What if I struggle to ejaculate during sex?
Sara and Jeff shed some light on the causes of common penis issues, and talk about what to do if, or when, things go south in different situations.
Penis challenges are very common, and they don’t have to signal the end of your sex life. After all, there’s so much more to sex than just erections and ejaculations, so shifting away from a penis performance mindset and finding creative ways to satisfy each other is key.
As communication is the most important tool to solve any kind of penis issue, speak up and seek help with any challenge you may be experiencing. Ultimately, penis issues are nothing to be ashamed of.
Tune in to the episode to get tips on keeping your penis healthy and happy in any S.O.S situation.
More Juicy Bits on the Show
2:26 - 12:56 – Tips for overcoming performance anxiety
13:02 - 16:55 - Keeping your erection stronger as you age
16:55 - 22:35 - Embracing your body as it ages
22:37 - 32:11 – Lasting longer in bed at any age
32:12 - 38:51 – Tips for improving male masturbation sessions
38:52 - 44:35 - Maintaining an erection with condoms
44:41 - 55:08 – Erotic strategies to overcome delayed ejaculation
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How to Keep Erections Strong as You Age
Manage your expectations – Changes in bodies and hormone levels can erectile function as you age. It’s important to embrace the aging process and avoid unrealistic goals and expectations.
Live a healthy lifestyle – Eating a healthy diet, regular exercise, and avoiding drugs and alcohol play a huge part in keeping your erections - and your body - in good shape.
Check for underlying conditions - Heart problems, high blood pressure, excess body weight and chronic disease can affect your erections, so it’s important to identify the root cause.
Reduce stress and anxiety – Chronic stress can cause erectile dysfunction and anxiety in the bedroom. Take time to relax, breathe, and engage in self-care to release stress regularly.
Take a supplement - Nitric oxide plays an important role in erectile function, so taking a supplement can stimulate blood flow and enhance heart health for some people.
Seek out professional help - Consult a doctor for health and hormone level checks. A sex coach can also help you find new ways to have satisfying partnered sex regardless of the strength of your erections.
Words of Wisdom
“Give your partner an orgasm before you even try penetrating your partner, because then you dial down a little bit of the anxiety because you say to yourself ‘my partner has already climaxed one so there’s not going to be that feeling of ‘oh my god, here I am orgasming, and she/he got nothing out of it.’ So, whether it’s oral sex, using a toy, penetrating with your fingers, or whatever, make sure your partner has an orgasm.”
“The two things that should never intersect are intimacy and anxiety. Anxiety is really a mood killer, it’s death to intimacy. Intimacy is about being present in the moment, looking in your partner’s eyes, connecting, relaxing, and enjoying yourself.”
“If you’re going to masturbate, look at it as an event, with as much relish as you would with a partner. Use a lube, relax, and set the tone. Don’t have a feeling like ‘let me get this over with as quickly as possible’ Treat it as a love-making event and enhance that. In some cases, it can help extend your love-making sessions with a partner.”
“The normal, average, healthy male during intercourse lasts just under 6 minutes. The average female without extension foreplay takes about 18 minutes, and that’s if she can climax through penetration at all, because of the location of the clitoris and vagina, a lot of women can not orgasm through vaginal penetration.”
“Take the focus away from that every single time you’re intimate thinking you have to ejaculate. That’s unrealistic. Really get into the mode of feeling the pleasure without the thought of ‘if I don’t have an explosive orgasm it’s wasted.’ There’s nothing wrong with feeling pleasure and being manually or orally stimulated without reaching a climax, it still feels really good.”
Other Great References You’ll Love
Promescent - A sexual health company that makes a signature delay spray clinically proven to help men last longer in bed.
VitaFlux – A nitric oxide supplement from Promescent to increase your libido, performance, blood flow, circulation, and improve energy in and out of the bedroom.
Make Love Not Porn – This TED talk of Cindy Gallop discusses how porn has created unrealistic expectations for sex.
5 Ways to Last Longer in Bed – Sarasense blog post offering realistic tips to help men last longer in the bedroom.
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