18. MAKE LOVE NOT PORN
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IS PORN HARMFUL OR BENEFICIAL?
With 30 million people watching it every second and the average age of exposure being 11 years, porn in today's world has become a pervasive force we can't ignore.
On this episode, Sara and Jye are joined by sex-positive friends Taura Edgar and Ross Gawelek to discuss all things porn. We discuss our personal experiences of porn, from how we discovered it to how its evolved, and the resulting impact on our watching habits.
By sharing the different types of porn we're drawn to - from Bang Brothers to DIY to the ethical variety - we discover the world of porn represents a diversity of our sexual experiences and desires, which we don't have to be ashamed of.
We openly explore the pros and cons of porn, and are reminded that we can afford to be more mindful about what we watch and how we watch it.
MORE JUICY BITS ON THE SHOW
9:54 – 12:40 Why do we watch porn?
12:43 – 17:40 Exploring porn genres in Tumblr
17:50 – 19:40 Effects of watching porn
21:58 – 24:10 How to deal with a partner watching porn without you
31:00 – 35:10 Advances of the porn industry
39:52 – 41:50 The future of VR porn
WORDS OF WISDOM
“Situations that we never are going to really experience but there’s something sort of exciting and naughty watching porn. Chemically, your brain releases dopamine or serotonin.”
“Just masturbating alone is a sort of a different experience. Porn takes it on a different level.”
“If you are spending more time watching porn than getting laid in real life, that’s a problem.”
“You really gotta be aware when it’s getting in the way of your social relationships. If you find yourself every weekend staying at home watching porn and not going out, you need to self-regulate a little bit.”
OTHER GREAT REFERENCES YOU'LL LOVE
Make Love, Not Porn – A membership community founded by Cindy Gallop that aims to make #realworldsex socially acceptable
XConfessions by Erika Lust - Erotic short films that are based on the anonymous confessions submitted by fans and followers and produced by Erika Lust
Make Love, Not Porn TED Talk – A 4-minute presentation by Cindy Gallop about how hardcore pornography had distorted the way a generation of young men think about sex
The 8 best sites to watch ethical, fair trade porn – Know more about ethical porn and where to find it
TELL US WHAT YOU THINK!
What are your thoughts and experiences with porn? Do you think it’s more harmful or beneficial? Leave us a comment below - we'd love to know!