6 Creative Ways to Take Solo Sex to the Next Level
There’s no denying that sex with a partner can be erotic, intense, and satisfying. With nearly 80% of adults saying they masturbate regularly, solo sex is another popular way to find that much-needed sexual release.
And masturbating can still be an intimate and enlightening experience, even if it doesn’t involve a partner.
In this article we’ll explore a few ways to enjoy solo sex and masturbation like never before. So grab your lube, favorite sex toy, or both, and let’s dive into the world of self-pleasure together!
1. Stimulate ALL of Your Senses
Masturbation is about more than just getting off. While touch is the main focus of most solo sex sessions, it shouldn’t be the only one.
Your other senses are extremely powerful and heightened during the sexual experience. If you’ve ever been blindfolded, you know that the minute you can’t see, all your other senses are instantly intensified.
Every sound, touch, and smell seems stronger and more intoxicating. Blindfolds aren’t just for living out BDSM fantasies. You can cover or shut your eyes during solo sex for a more intense experience.
To pique your olfactory sense try using a scented lube or burning essential oils in fragrances like lavender and patchouli. Arouse your auditory senses with sultry music or erotic audio sex stories.
And don’t be afraid to get loud. Let your pleasure be known! By stimulating all of your senses during solo sex, you can easily send your body (and your orgasm) into overdrive.
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2. Practice the Art of Edging
Masturbation shouldn’t be a race to the finish line. All too often, solo sex is a means to an end. But what’s the hurry?
One way to enjoy all the glory and pleasure that solo sex has to offer is by going slow, taking your time, and practicing the art of edging.
If you’re not familiar with this practice, edging involves controlling your orgasm. Essentially, bringing yourself to the edge without falling over.
As you feel the pleasure building in your belly and between your legs and you’re ready to explode in a powerful, body-shaking release, you stop. And then let your arousal levels dip down before building it up again.
Yes, we know, it sounds like torture, and it sort of is, but it’s the best kind of torture because the reward is well worth the wait.
By bringing yourself almost to the peak of sexual pleasure and then slowing your pace, you’re creating tension and build-up that can only be released in one way -- through one of the most intense and long-lasting orgasms of your life.
3. Invest in New Toys and Products
Variety is the spice of life. And what better way to add some excitement to solo sex than by investing in some naughty new products?
From vibrators and dildos to lingerie, clamps, pumps, masturbation sleeves and countless other items, you can explore your body and pleasure in ways you never thought possible!
Start off with some beginner toys like a bullet vibrator or a masturbation sleeve, and experiment with different types of lubricant, from water-based to CBD oil-based. Rabbit-style vibes are another popular choice for vulva owners who enjoy dual stimulation.
When you’re ready to upgrade to some more adventurous items, try adding to your collection butt plugs, anal beads, nipple clamps, penis pumps, and suction cup dildos.
If sex toys aren’t your thing, don’t fret!
Investing in a sexy and flattering piece of lingerie can be a great way to instantly boost your confidence and sex drive. Lingerie isn’t reserved just for people in relationships.
Slipping into something silky under your clothes all day will leave you primed and ready for some solo sex when your workday is done.
4. Switch Things Up
Speaking of variety, how often do you switch up your masturbation routine? Do you pleasure yourself in the same position and place using exactly the same technique every time?
Whether you’re in the shower, laying on your back in bed, or sitting in front of your computer watching porn, spice up your solo sex life by flipping the script and switching things up.
Instead of masturbating while laying on your back in bed, try lying face down, sitting, or squatting. Take your favorite waterproof sex toy in the shower or slowly and methodically touch yourself in a warm, soothing bath. Vary the speed, tempo and energy of your solo pleasure techniques as much as you can.
It’s far too easy to let your sex life get in a rut and we don’t just mean sex with others. By keeping your solo sex life exciting, spontaneous, and creative that helps your brain and body learn new pathways to pleasure.
You’d be surprised how liberating it is to climax in a different place or position or using a different technique than you’re used to.
5. Create a Naughty Scenario in Your Mind
As the name suggests, solo sex is about exploring your sexuality and pleasure on your own. But that doesn’t mean you can’t incorporate other fantasies or people into your one-on-one session.
Try imagining a naughty or even taboo scenario while masturbating. Perhaps you imagine someone watching you from the corner of the room as you touch yourself. Close your eyes and envision someone there with you, controlling your hand or toy.
This is another place where audio porn and erotic media comes in handy (pun intended).
Listen and fantasize as the erotic story unfolds. Picture yourself as the main character as you explore not only your body but also your naughtiest fantasies. You may even discover new ones!
6. Watch Yourself
Watching porn is one thing but there’s nothing quite as erotic as watching yourself during solo sex play. Set yourself up in front of a mirror, spread your legs, and be proud of your pleasure!
Remind yourself how beautiful you are as you slowly caress and explore your naked body. Watch how your body reacts to certain movements and stimuli. Notice how the muscles in your arms and stomach tighten and your lips part as you inch closer to climaxing.
Try to keep your eyes open while you orgasm. You can also film yourself masturbating and watch it back later like your own personal porn video! Just be sure to keep it somewhere safe and be smart about sharing it.
Solo Sex Doesn’t Have to Be Boring
Whether you’re divorced, single, or just going through a dry spell, masturbation is a healthy part of life. Just because you don’t currently have a partner to get down and dirty with, doesn’t mean your solo sex life has to be a snooze.
Get creative while pleasuring yourself. Think outside the box and try new and different toys, techniques, and positions. The only thing standing in your way is your own reservations and inhibitions.
Once you realize that solo sex can be an intimate and beautiful experience, you can start enjoying your body in new and amazing ways!
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