Sex-Positive Holiday Gift Guide for Him & Her
By SARA TANG, SEX COACH
Gifts are one of the major love languages, and finding the right gift for each special person in your life is truly an art.
If you’re the kind of person who routinely struggles with gifting around the holidays, I get it and I’m here to help.
There’s nothing special about giving gifts that people won’t really use or enjoy. Not to mention, it’s a waste of time and money.
I’m of the opinion that “gifts that keep giving” go a long way over the holidays, and what’s better than giving your loved ones (this includes you!) the gift of pleasure all year long?
So I’ve compiled my selection of the best sex-positive holiday gifts for this year below, and if you carry on reading to the end, I also share some of my guiding principles around thoughtful gifting that will elevate your gift from a mere nice-to-have to a meaningful demonstration of love and affection.
Because that’s what this season of giving is really all about!
SEXY GIFTS FOR HIM / THE SPECIAL PENIS IN YOUR LIFE
Manscaped is the leading male hygiene brand trusted by over 2 million men. And their Performance Package 4.0 is the perfect package for his perfect package!
Inside this all-in-one grooming kit, you’ll find their brand new Lawn Mower 4.0. Trimmer, which features advanced SkinSafe technology and cutting-edge ceramic blades to reduce grooming accidents.
The Performance Package 4.0 also includes the Weed Whacker, which is a nose and ear hair trimmer for the toughest weeds, and the brand’s top-selling Crop Preserver ball deodorant and Crop Reviver ball toner.
And it all even comes with a free premium travel bag, The Shed, and a free pair of anti-chafing boxers. Those balls will thank you!
Sarasense Holiday offer, get 20% off + free shipping by going to http://manscaped.com/betterinbed or using code BETTERINBED.
The Arcwave Ion is a great gift for the gadget guru or tech lover in your life.
As the world's first and only Pleasure Air stroker for men, this is not a conventional stroker. Rather the innovative product promises a new type of stimulation based entirely on pulsating airwaves.
It focuses on stimulating the sensitive pleasure receptors in the frenulum, which is located where the foreskin meets the underside of the penis and delivers some of the most intense orgasms.
SEXY GIFTS FOR HER / THE SPECIAL VULVA IN YOUR LIFE
Ignite a spark this holiday season with OhMiBod’s Lovelife collection. This line of pleasure products is designed to take intimate connectivity to the next level.
Looking for a little toning? The Lovelife Krush is an app-connected set of pleasure balls that offers vibrations to strengthen and tone the pelvic floor muscle. As a result, enhancing muscle control during intercourse, and even increasing the intensity of your orgasm.
Not to mention, when the “workout” is done, you can enjoy the playful side of the Lovelife Krush with some alone time!
Sarasense Holiday Offer: From now till 31st December 2021, enjoy 15% off Lovelife toys with code BETTERINBED at checkout.
Ferly is an audio guide that combines mindfulness with sexuality to help female-identifying users overcome sexual issues, gain more awareness of their bodies and discover what works for them.
Listen to the Ferly founders Dr Anna Hushlak and Billie Quinlan speak about how to own your sexual wellness on this Better in Bed episode.
Their app is packed full of guided meditations, therapy-based courses, educational information, podcasts and erotic stories - it’s almost like having a virtual sex coach in your pocket! Getting this for someone is both a mindful - and mind-blowing - holiday treat.
SEXY GIFTS FOR THEM / THE SEXY COUPLE IN YOUR LIFE
The award-winning Crescendo by Mysteryvibe is the world’s first vibrator designed to mimic your fingers. It’s infinitely flexible so it can be bent into any shape that works for you and/or a partner.
It is designed to be unisex and gender-neutral to appeal to people, and can be used for solo and partnered play.
Reach, discover & arouse erogenous zones from the Clitoris, G-spot to P-spot and enjoy targeted stimulation precisely where you want them, thanks for the product’s six individual motors.
The Mysteryvibe smart app also allows you to give your partner control of your pleasure, and can result in some explosive stimulation depending on whether you’ve been naughty or nice.
Special Sarasense offer: Get 15% off the Crescendo or Poco at Mysteryvibe with code BETTERINBED at checkout.
SEXY GIFTING TIPS: HOW TO GIVE THE GIFT OF PLEASURE
So now that I’ve done the heavy lifting of curating the best holiday gifts and steamiest gift promotions for everyone special - and I mean everyone, including you! - the hard part’s over.
But do consider these principles of thoughtful gifting that will help make your loved ones feel valued and loved when they receive your gifts.
1. Tie the Gift to a Sexy Experience
If you’re giving a lover or partner a pleasure product, could you also arrange a sexy date night with them to experience the product? You could break out a bottle of wine, light some candles, cook a nice meal and have an intimate adventure together.
Or simply, just use the gift to start a conversation around something meaningful that brings you closer together. If giving a gift in the context of a group of friends, you could integrate the gift into a little challenge or game like White Elephant - where all of you can play along.
2. Give the Gift of Time and Space
Sometimes the best gifts don’t have to cost a fortune, or even anything at all. Offering someone the gift of me-time may be what they really need to help them connect to their needs, interests and priorities.
This can take the form of time-saving favours — like a week of home-cooked meals cooked by you, subscription to a concierge service or even a few nights of babysitting. Design a simple gift voucher outlining the favour or service and accompany it with a heartfelt note of appreciation for the recipient.
This will go down especially well if your friend or partner is a time-strapped parent or is in a relationship that has struggled after more than a year of being locked down.
3. Honour and Remember Requests
Surprises can be fun but studies have shown that people are happiest when they receive gifts that they asked for, rather than alternatives.
That’s why I like to keep a running list of things my loved ones mention throughout the year that might make good gifts.
Often I will look out for things that they mentioned they really wanted or needed, but never got around to buying for themselves. Perhaps because they lacked the time or willingness to spend money on themselves to do so.
These types of gifts are extremely personal, and are a great way to show them that you took note of something special about them.
Regardless of who you’re shopping for this season, I hope I’ve given you a few pleasure-packed alternatives to itchy socks and sweaters, that will meet whatever budget level you’re at.
And remember, pleasure always goes both ways and it’s equally important to give and receive, so make sure you take the time to love and treat yourself to a few gifts this season too.
I hope your holiday season is filled with love, joy and pleasure.
Full disclosure: Some offers on this gift guide are sponsored links and offers, which help support the site. But all opinions are 100% honest and my own. I only recommend things I would use or have used previously. If you are looking to have Hotter Sex on Holiday or invest in giving the gift of sexual wellness to yourself or someone you love, find out more about sex coaching sessions with me.