12 Types of People You'll Meet at a Sex Party

BY VONNY LANG, SEXY LIFESTYLE HOST

Attending a sex party, or play parties as they are often called within the community, is a common fantasy. And they attract people from all walks of life, professions and backgrounds.

Usually these are just normal people who want to have a great time and happen to be open-minded, confident and cool enough to try something different, even something slightly taboo.

As a party host, I put a lot of time and care into finding fun-loving, sex-positive people and creating an environment where everyone will feel at ease.

I’ve met all sorts of characters at the parties and because we have similar values, I’ve gotten to know them so well that I hope they will become lifelong friendships.

In case you’re wondering what kinds of people you might meet if you ever decide to dip your toes into the sex party scene… here is my list:

The Mama-san

The Mama-san is usually a bit older or more experienced in the lifestyle. They might be the organizer or the host, and affectionately referred to as the “mama-san”, if she’s female.

Since these are not the type of parties where the girls get paid to have sex, she’s far from the “pimp”, as the name suggests. Instead she is more like a sexy “mom” taking care of her babies that she has introduced into the world of play parties.

She helps to ease worried minds of anxious newbies, and facilitates connections at the parties. She’ll give you a little nudge when you’re too timid to talk to that guy or girl you’ve been eyeing, and help make everything go smoother for you.

The Gang Bang Girl

She may come across as shy at first but this girl is loads of fun once she gets started. She just needed some time to figure out what she could get away with, or how wild she could get without the rest of you freaking out.

Once you get those paddle marks across her lovely ass, she’s squealing with pleasure from the stimulation and wanting more. She loves the attention from all the people around her, and wants the thrill of handling more than 1 dick at a time. Even 3 or 4 is child’s play for her.

The Sleeping Beauty

Due to a long day at work or too much partying the night before, whatever the case, Sleeping Beauty is way too knackered to participate in the fun. They may or may not have squeezed in a little bit of playtime in before they pass straight out.

Yup, you will find this person actually sleeping right at the party either on the bed or on the sofa nearby! Improbable, but I’ve seen this happen.

That’s totally fine though. I usually leave them to their restful slumber. It’s rather endearing that they still want to be part of the action, even in their semi-comatose state.

The Introvert

This type likes to be around people, but they’re also quite shy, which can be awkward at times in a play party setting. In reality, they’re often super intellectual and deep, but they prefer one-on-one settings.

If you give The Introvert a chance to connect with you before playtime really starts, then you’ll be pleasantly surprised at how they’ll enhance the interaction with their conversation and friendship.

Also, they’re more into “making love”, rather than the “fuck your brains out” kind of sex. 

The Sex Athlete

For them, sex is a necessity, and they approach it like an endurance sport.  

This person has so much energy that they could very well attend a party one night and run a marathon the next day with no issues. They might even treat the party like a warm-up session to pump them up and get their blood flowing.

They’re usually fit, skilled and well-built with so much lean muscle and stamina, it makes the rest of us seem like zombies in comparison!

The Unicorn

Yup, the mystical unicorn does exist and that are roaming freely at play parties. In case you don’t know, a unicorn is a single girl or a guy who is able and willing to play with couples (or part of the couple) with no strings attached.

These unicorns are not interested in anything more than a casual and sexual encounter, which is great for heterosexual couples who are looking to play with just one person, or for a threesome.

That doesn’t automatically mean the male unicorn is bisexual though! In most parties, he’s usually straight as an arrow (and its good practice to check beforehand). Most couples will be glad to find that he can perform with another guy watching…

The BDSM Couple

The dominant/submissive relationship is always an interesting one to see at play parties. The dominant partner guides and directs the other, sometimes inflicting pain for pleasure, but always watching out for their sub’s safety.

The submissive may also be instructed to play with other people, as the dominant partner sees fit.

They’re always the best-dressed couple in the room, probably from all the role-playing they do on a regular basis. They own more leather and latex gear than most people. You can expect them to put on a good show and always bring lots of toys to share.

The Newbie

The Newbie can’t decide if they’re even coming to the party until the last minute. They usually make up a bunch of excuses and finally show up after lots of coaxing and reassuring. 

It’s understandable that play parties can be intimidating for first timers. I mean, it’s a pretty unique experience and most people are way too scared to even try it.

There are always several newbies at the parties and they might feel a bit anxious at first, but they always ease into it and have a great time. They sometimes end up being the first to get in on the action even if they came with the most reservations.

The Cuckold

This is the kind of partner that lets you have all the fun. He/she is happy to attend parties with their loved ones, and whether or not they get in on the action, seeing their partner having a great time is all that matters to them.

They’re not intimated by anyone or anything that happens at the party because that’s how strong their relationship is.

In fact they’re probably busy swiping on dating apps like Tinder and Feeld right now trying to match the next lucky person to play with their partner!

The Daddy

He’s the older guy who parties harder than any of us, and he gets on supremely well with the ladies. He knows how to treat a lady well and is generous to a fault.

He’ll definitely take good care of you. Perfect for those with daddy issues or if you want a taste of something more refined, or someone with a lot of experience.

He might have a cuddly dad bod or some silver hairs but we love him anyway because it adds to his sexy dad appeal.

He has no qualms about being called “daddy” both in and out of the bedroom. He’s confident in his charisma. In fact, it seems the older he gets, the more people are drawn to him.

The Squirter

You’re definitely going to want to learn something from this woman. She’s so sexually liberated and in tune with her body that she can cause a mini-tsunami between her legs.

She’s the reason waterproof bed sheets became a necessity at play parties. When she climaxes, it’s quite the sensation. People go crazy for her love juices, but you might need a mini umbrella if you don’t like getting drenched.

The Troublemaker

This type doesn’t always show up at the parties, but when they do… hearts will be broken and tears will be shed. 

They’re like a dancer in a strip joint, it’s their job to keep you coming back for more. They also have a knack for wearing some very sexy outfits, including red platform boots to fit all sorts of party dress up themes.

The Troublemaker is so charming there’s people falling for them left, right and centre. They just seem to always attract the most beautiful victims.

Funny enough, they’re usually already attached to someone, but somehow the fact that they’re somehow unattainable only adds to their appeal.

Vonny Lang believes that people should live out their sexual fantasies and connect with other likeminded individuals. She is the host and creator of sexy lifestyle parties in the Asia region.