4 Moments That Can Get You In A Sexy Mood

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Getting into a sexy mood happens a little differently for everyone. We all have our own turn-ons, turn-offs and fantasies.

Understanding what these are with your partner is what keeps the spark alive in a relationship. Good communication helps too. Take the quiz below to help you communicate better, inside and outside the bedroom.

There are some common moments in our lives which typically will get most people into a sexy mood. Understanding and making sure there’s more of these moments in your sex and love life could be the aphrodisiac you’re looking for right now. 

So without further ado, let’s delve a little more into these special, sexy moments below.

Put in Some Effort

Putting in some effort truly proves to your partner that you care about them, and you want them to feel special, and you’re down for making sure they get as much pleasure as possible. 

So, when it comes to putting a bit more spark into your and your partner’s day, why not light some candles and cook up a wonderful meal? Or simply run a nice, romantic bath you can both enjoy. 

Or buy them a sexy gift - perhaps a slinky outfit that they can slip into afterwards or a couples sex toy that you know will turn both of you on.

Little touches of effort, here and there, can really surprise your loved one, and encourage similar behavior from them in the future. 

Show Some Affection

A display of affection always gets people into a sexy mood! When you’re out there baring your soul, and proving to your partner that you love and pay attention to them, it might just make them want to jump your bones! 

Say you’ve just proposed with a beautiful diamond engagement ring; what are you likely to do next? If you’re in private, it’ll be straight upstairs to the bedroom. And if you’re in public, you’ll probably want to get home as soon as possible or find a quiet spot to celebrate.

Based on our respective love languages, we can have different ways of expressing affection - from eye contact to compliments to hugs and kisses. 

These gestures have a profound effect on the way we feel about the person we’re with; they are a wonderful way of connecting and can provide a much-needed libido boost. 

Fantasise About Something Sexy

The brain is our biggest sex organ and the best way that we can use it to get us in the mood is the fantasise about something sexy. 

You could think of a sexy memory of something you and your partner did that really got you in the mood. You could create anticipation for a date night by sending each other saucy text messages or pictures. 

Or you could paint a vivid mental image of how your partner would stimulate each of your body parts, including your genitals.

There’s even science to support that this works. In a landmark 2016 study, that showed the connection between the mind and pleasure, neuroscientist Dr. Nan Wise noted how the pleasure centers of the brain “lit up” when subjects merely imagined pleasurable stimulation on their genitals.

Unwind After a Long Day

And finally, it’s more of a subtle moment than the others on this list, but it matters all the same. When you’ve had a long and hard day, as soon as you slip into bed, you might just want to go straight to sleep. 

But if your partner is there with you, and they’re perfectly willing to have sex right now, taking the time to get each other in the sexy mood could be a good way to shake off the stress and frustration of the day you’ve just had. 

You’ll certainly sleep much better, and you’ll feel much closer to your significant other as you lie there in each other's arms. What could be a better way to end the day? 

So what happens next? Just try to take the points above into account. Think about what gets you in the mood, and what gets your partner in the mood. Combining the two might just mean there’s quite a few more sexy moments in your life together. 

Experiencing a loss of desire or mismatched libidos? If you need more support in this area, I’m a certified sex coach that can give you the tools to help you reclaim your desire and get into a sexy mood. Find out more about working with me here. 

Or check out my other blog posts such as 6 Ways to Keep Your Libido High During Lockdown, and How to Address Mismatched Sex Drives for further inspiration.